I will turn 65 this year. At one point in time, I thought of 65 as ancient. That I would be sitting in my rocker, easy listening music on the radio and waiting for my children to make that occasional, obligatory phone call to mother. Boy was I wrong…
I do spend some time sitting on my favorite perch, looking out at the world below me, wondering what I’m going to do for my third act. My children are all independent and thriving, there are no aged parents to care for and with the least responsibilities I’ve had in a long time, I’m searching for my next endeavor. This past Sunday I took several online quizzes with regard to life expectancy and it seems the internet believes I’m going to live to be 92. I want to spend however many years I have left continuing to evolve and grow.
I’m not keen on being identified as a senior citizen. The term congers up visions of someone who drives too slowly, dines at 5:00 p.m., and fills her evening with crocheting. An alternative for senior citizen for women is “a woman of a certain age.” Urban Dictionary defines that as “Ironically polite term for a woman who does not want her actual age known.” The Oxford English Dictionary describes “a certain age” as a time “when one is no longer young, but which politeness forbids to be specified too minutely: usually, referring to some age between forty and sixty (mostly said of women).” With all due respect to Urban Dictionary and the Oxford English Dictionary, I am claiming my age! I am shouting from my 10th floor apartment “I am 64!”
I don’t need you to dance around my age or give me a cute moniker. Please know that when I am obviously more than a decade older than you, I find your addressing me as “young lady” condescending and obnoxious. I am not afraid of growing older and prefer that you look at me and recognize my countless life experiences that have brought me this far. Aging is simply moving forward in life.
In 2020, there are more women over 50 on earth than there have ever been. The ones I know are pretty amazing. For the next four months, on the first Sunday of the month, I will introduce you to a woman who has made powerful changes in her life at “a certain age”, sometimes through choice, sometimes not. Please visit my blog on Sunday to meet Julia, a woman who is truly evolving, personally and professionally.
C’est la vie.